Anyone else have trouble finding a match for thier eccentric personality? I wonder if Weirdos have a hard time finding each other? Or, maybe it's best if there's only one Weirdo in a relationship? Maybe the non-Weirdo stabalizes something?
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Re: Weirdos in Love
Sat, August 14, 2004 - 9:37 AMWeirdos are anomalies, so it's not as easy statistically for 2 to find each other, although common interest in the bizarre could bring them together. And can these two kooks effectively deal with each other's idiocynracies?
I think often it's a freak and a staight paring, at least that's what my personal experience tells me. -
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Sat, August 14, 2004 - 4:27 PMcrap. I really like the wierd ones. Or, rather I'm more attracted to eccentric personalities. But, I do often end up disappointed by them. So, maybe when it comes down to pairing and breeding my weirdo offspring I'll choose a mate who is normal and stable. I wonder, tho, if our children would be Weirdos or some strange Weirdo-halfbreed with inner conflict?!?!?
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Re: Weirdos in Love
Sat, August 14, 2004 - 5:24 PMYeah, it always makes me cry when I cut a weirdo open. :-(
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Sat, August 14, 2004 - 8:03 PMIt's gotta be a weirdo for me, or at least someone with a some healthy streaks of strangeness. Normal people are a drag. Crazy people are a whole other matter. Keep 'em away from me! As for the offspring... is weirdness a recessive trait? How does haploid weirdness manifest itself? You can't get any weirder than my spawn. They're SuperKooks.
BTW, where does your disappointment with weirdos lie?
Are they never weird enough for you? Too neurotic?
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Re: Weirdos in Love
Sat, August 14, 2004 - 8:06 PMIt's gotta be a weirdo for me, or at least someone with a some healthy streaks of strangeness. Normal people are a drag. Crazy people are a whole other matter. Keep 'em away from me! As for the offspring... is weirdness a recessive trait? How does haploid weirdness manifest itself? You can't get any weirder than my spawn. They're SuperKooks.
BTW, where does your disappointment with weirdos lie?
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Sat, August 14, 2004 - 9:52 PMLately, I'm disappointed in the flake factor of one of (what I thought was) a fellow Weirdo. Maybe he's no Weirdo at all? Now I get it! He must be, like, a Freak or somthin'! Can't be havin' Weirdo/Freak interbreedin', now can we? -
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Re: Weirdos in Love
Sun, August 15, 2004 - 12:15 AMNo, I think you got right the first time: a Flake.
Maybe even a frosted flake.
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Re: Weirdos in Love
Sun, February 18, 2007 - 10:32 AMUmmm...giggle...
Technically, a lot of weirdos (not all) have social skill defficiencies. ie, may not react like you'd expect, or recipricate in ways that make sense. I lost my heart a while back to someone who just couldn't keep the flow going. Oh if I was there, I was there...and if I wasn't, well...oops all gone
There was no way to get a decent back and forth energy exchange
Oh but such a sexy weirdo
energy like chocolate
totally clueless in a deep kinda way...sigh
yes it's hopeless
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Re: Weirdos in Love
Mon, February 19, 2007 - 2:55 AMIt's probably too difficult for most people to consider being around a "weirdo" for the social skills ineptness alone. I've got that Aspie thing going, and I don't have those mental models of what people are, nor am I able to predict what they'd do. And, I wonder, if the same inability to predict MY actions/reactions are just as difficult to guage from the point of view of an NT (neurotypical).
I'm highly empathic, in selected situations, but not all. When I see people, or even read about online, that are in pain, it literally hurts me. Mentally and physically. The emotional pain is the worst. It affects me so strongly that I have a NEED to want them to feel better...so that *I* can feel better.
I had to give up TV, not just because of crappy network programming (I had no cable), but the NEWS was killing me. People being killed or injured all over the place. It's toooooo much for me to deal with.
While many people don't get it, there are other people that do seem to understand me a bit. I can get along with some of the people, others bail when I show my weirdness (online). What I was happy to find here on Tribe.net are a few people that actually will take the time to explain things in a way I can understand.
I have NEVER had that in my life. Sure, there are plenty of schools and classes for every subject...except these social skills that I do NOT pick up on (and look strange to me). People aren't generally that HONEST. I read another great one today, that explained what I do (have done) in a different perspective and how it makes that other person (or people in general) feel.
Instead of telling me to shut up (a usual response), the person explained it. I still might not catch it when I do it, but I am AWARE of it now. That's just ONE thing, though. One thing I do online. What kind of person wants to be a "life teacher" to someone else? In addition, who can handle the observations made by me? It's going to have to be a weirdo, to teach a weirdo, but we'll have to be somewhat different in terms of our weirdness. He's going to have to "get" all that social stuff that I don't get...to explain it. Or we'll have to go off into our own weirdo world and be weird privately.
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Re: Weirdos in Love
Mon, February 19, 2007 - 1:09 PM"That Aspie thing"
Oh that I get, bein' one myself....it's the oil and water effect I always get when I try 'n' cross that aspie thing with the High Functioning Autistic thing. The savant skills draw me in, but the poor emotional languadge abilities leave me blank.
Sigh so sexy...always sensual...but very poor communicators.
Darnit
The Aspies are easy, they're game for most topics, as long as it's logical
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Re: Weirdos in Love
Wed, January 31, 2007 - 10:25 AMi will admit i've dated some that were just too neurotic for me - and that's saying something, i guess. i think for me, it's when "weird" crosses over to "disorder" that i need to call it quits. i am constantly amazed how many different/eccentric people there are out there. it's more than i was led to believe as a youth. it's quite encouraging. lol i've come to the conclusion that the acceptance of self is paramount, and running a close second is keeping away the "disorderlies" and "vampires" if you do choose to deal with the general populous.
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Re: Weirdos in Love
Sun, February 18, 2007 - 10:24 AMI know that this is old, but it made me laugh out loud
"I wonder, tho, if our children would be Weirdos or some strange Weirdo-halfbreed with inner conflict?!?!? "
I'm only attracted to eccentric people, so no chance of going 'normal'
and...the kids do come out quirky
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Re: Weirdos in Love
Wed, January 31, 2007 - 10:19 AMalso keep in mind that even if two weirdos find each other, there's also the outside forces of that weirdo's "baggage" (i.e., exs, children). i have met my weirdo - i just cannot deal with the excess that comes with him. ;) he takes pictures of trains. i would consider that weird but then again, i decorate my guitar, so to each his/her own, i say. i think if it were just him and me, we'd be okay.
my sister reminded me one time that "your relationship doesn't have to be perfect - it just has to be perfect for you."
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Re: Weirdos in Love
Wed, January 31, 2007 - 2:21 PMDecember, I say the same thing to other people too, it doesn't have to be the perfect guy, or "Mr. Right" (or Ms. Right), it has to be the right one for me. I like to think of the wacky TV relationships, like Dharma and Greg. People that understand each other, they'll make the best couples. I don't know if both people have to be weird though.
I tend to see "normal" people as being extremely weird, and have that Aspie thing going on. And I am seen as weird from the other point of view. It depends on whether or not we see each other as being "attractively weird". Or compatibly weird.
I've been given a lot of crap for being weird by people that have no interest in understanding my weirdness or explaining their own. And I've had great conversations with people who ARE interested in the weirdness and are willing to explain themselves.
Everyone comes with baggage. I'd definitely prefer no children in the formula. I love kids, but don't have any, and those part-time kids...well, my former spouse had three from two previous wives. It was not so good.
I don't see decorating your guitar as being weird. Er...well, what kind of decorating? You aren't putting little barbie-sized curtains and chairs on it, are you? Or, uh, putting it on a stand and covering it with holiday lights? Actually, that's a good idea. "The Christmas Guitar"
Trains are a lot of people's hobby. That's not too weird.
Let me start a new thread. ...heh heh heh...
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Re: Weirdos in Love
Sat, August 14, 2004 - 6:10 PMWhenever I've dated someone as weird as me, it never works out. It's interesting and fun at first, but then the guy always ends up irritating me, and vice versa. I think the more stable, "normal" guys are just more suited to my weirdness. They always seem more interested in learning what makes me tick. -
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Wed, September 8, 2004 - 11:04 AMI have had luck with both the more stable and the extra weird. When I am dating a super-weirdo, then I become the normal one..or at least keep my partner from running head-long into traffic(true story)..it can be very stressful, but they make good friends when the relationship is over. I find that the normal guys I date are just a different shade of weird from me..a normal ..neat tidy kind of weird that is a product of their stable-yet-twisted upbringing. If they were too normal/stable, surely they would want nothing to do with me.
Currently, I am dating a complete weirdo who in the past has mostly dated women he had nothing in common with..who hated all the weirdness he stood for or wanted to harness and change it somehow..to my understanding. It works out very well for the both of us.
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Re: Weirdos in Love
Sat, February 3, 2007 - 4:39 PMWow, I can't believe I never stuck my 2ยข into this thread before!
I used to be very, very adaptable and open to all sorts of romantic relationships, eventually (sooner rather than later) getting dumped because I was misunderstood. I suppose part of the manifestation of my weirdness involves taken things quite literally and behaving like the partner guys *said* they wanted. One guy actually dumped me because I didn't get jealous when he took me out then abandoned me for the evening while he talked to another girl. Hey, he still went home with me, so it was cool. But not for him.
I, too, seem to be more attracted to the unusual in all my relationships. They just seem easier that way.
It is hard, though, finding a guy who's just the right kind of compatible weird, though. I still believe there's one out there looking for me. -
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Re: Weirdos in Love
Sat, February 3, 2007 - 10:50 PMEuphoria, I was thinking about the number of men in this world, and Dang, girl, there has GOT to be someone for us. I'd even take every other day/night with the right kind of weirdo guy. I'm not "desperate" but I am fed up. Guys that are weird, but weird in the wrong way. Then I start chucking them left and right like bad grapes, ones that are obviously rotten (as in: not the guy for me at all, in any lifetime), and ones that are too tart (not even close to the same lifestage). I want sweet and ready to eat. Hah!
I'm pretty jealous, wanna hook me up with the former? That playing around crap really annoys me. You're with me or you're not. Make up your mind. Make a choice. Me or ???.
I like unusual, and sometimes unusual likes me too. Sometimes...not. I suppose because I'm a weirdo, I expect to be with a weirdo, and sometimes the weirdos are too weird to notice. Or they're too weird for me. It's the aspie thing, and it's going to be a problem for my life, unless one understands and/or enjoys that sort of thing. Some people I seem to amuse, even my first real boyfriend was 'amused'. I miss him.
Yeah, he and even his boss, would toss peanuts or snack foods in my cleavage like a game of basketball 'horse' and I stood there like an idiot. Then again, who got free snacks? hahahaha All I had to do was stand there in a low-cut shirt and they bought snacks to toss at my chest. From a survival standpoint, cleavage makes sense. Hah!
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